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Do you want to say goodbye to your past life and begin with a new stage? But facing the problem? Yes, I understand, making this kind of change is never easy. Everyone has past. You have experienced stimulating moments and magnificent memories that you will keep with your perpetually. Yet, you have also likely been through situations that were difficult, which is quite common and full of uncertainties, headache. isn’t it?
However, if you want to move on, you, in reality, have to make the efforts and start a new life. I have also gone through many huge life changes, all of which entailed leaving behind an old lifestyle and embracing a new one. You know what I think? It’s kind of being a spy. When I was a toddler, I thought being a spy would be pretty efficient, so in a way, I have accomplished that. Besides, there are plenty of reasons to leave your past behind. So, firstly, let’s educate yourself why is it crucial to leave your past behind.
There are many people who don’t want to leave their past. Are you also one of them? If yes, then you must forget the past. To leave the past behind and plunge who or what hurt you isn’t something that comes easy. I understand. It takes a lot of hard work, time, patience, and self-esteem to remain moving forward. It’s a warped notion to think that sometimes the people that we love and respect the most are also the people that are the one so proficient of hurting us. Closing is very important. Leavening the past in the past is indisputably one of the greatest choices that you could ever make. Know the reasons below why is it vital.
#1. Allows Old Door To Remain Open, And New Doors To Remain Shut
Yes, right! If you never truly let go of what’s already done, then you aren’t permitting yourself to have a better present or a better future. If you keep stuck in past, you are destroying your present and future as well. What we deserve and truly desire in this life is true happiness. Am I right? To truly be happy is to accept where you are at the time being, and believing the choices or mistakes you made were made for reasons.
#2. You Can Never Truly Move On
You will come across with many people who live inside your head, to eat at every conscious and non-conscious though. We have all either made a mistake that we never thought we were capable of making or we have been hurt by somebody that we never thought would be possible of hurting us. If you permit yourself to live in the past, then you never give the chance to yourself to move on and leave what’s in the past truly in the past.
#3.Can you Rewind Time And Change What Already Happened
Is that right? Can you? Of course not, then why you still leaving in past? I am pretty sure that all of us at some point wish that we could spool back the time and change something. But, keep in mind the only thing we can change is the present moment. We are not able to go back and change what’s already happened, so why bother always permitting ourselves to live in the misery of something that what’s done is done.
I have had a lot of restless nights. Nights when I was so apprehensive about something that had happened in the past that I let it read out my future. Which is wrong isn’t it? We have all been there at some point. You are not alone. I am talking on the subject of those times when we just can’t quiver the past. Whether it’s something small, like making a dreadful first impression, or saying something you wish you hadn’t, to something if like having to fold up your business. Harping on unenthusiastic experiences is painful, when we hold on to that pain, we cannot move on to something more optimistic. That is why it is crucial that you let it go and leave the past behind with these tricks.
#1. Learn From The Past
Yes. that’s true and you have to. Those negative experiences you had can truly be used for wisdom and future experiences — no matter how painful they are. Take some time to imitate on the experience and look at ways at it can, in reality, help you down the road. Moreover, you can learn from your experiences by reflecting on these few straightforward questions:
What actually happened? Answer only by dealing with the facts.
What emotions do I feel? I personally like to write them down.
How can I use this to authorize myself and my feelings?
After answering these questions, it’s time to move ahead. While dazzling on the past for a little bit of time is appropriate, lodging on it will only keep those negative
#2. Focus on the present.
What does it mean to live fully in the present moment? It means that your attentiveness is completely centered on the here and now. You are not tormenting about the future or thinking about the past. When you exist in the present, you are living where life is happening. The past and future are false impressions, they don’t exist. As the saying goes “tomorrow never comes”. Tomorrow is only a notion, tomorrow is always coming up to the corner, but around that corner are darkness, never to have light shack upon, because time is always now.
In simple words, one of the most effectual ways to let go of the past is to squeeze the present. Rather than reliving the past and getting obsessive with negativity, keep yourself all the time active and take pleasure in the existing moment. Learn a new skill. Meditate. Exercise. Have dinner with a friend. Make a new friend. No matter what it is, just survive in the moment – even if it’s just sitting at your bureau and watching the clouds roll by.
#3.Meet New People
Sometimes, we don’t like to meet new people or to enhance our social life because of our past. But is it good, to stay alone all the time? Off course not, this habit will never let you to start a new chapter of your life. Don’t put a label on every person you meet, assuming you know in advance who they are, what they do and how they can interrelate with you. Open up, let yourself pour and look for the signs. Many times my life was really changed when I just believed to meet someone new.
#4. Admit Defeat
Yes, it hurts. Yes, you lost something or somebody. Yes, your hopes are wrecked down and maybe so is the heart. Accept it. But now, its time to close up the battle and move on. If you keep stuck in your past then you are rejecting the good opportunities also. There is the very effortless thing which many people are just blindly paying no attention: you can’t have a new triumph until you close your current battle.
#5. Challenge Yourself
If you are the physical type, then Bungee Jumping is the best option for you. Or, if you’re the shy guy, do a public speech in front of one thousand people. In other words, challenging you is the best thing to leave your past behind, this will make you stronger and boost your willpower. The more overwhelming the challenge you’re embracing, the faster you’ll get out of your comfort region. And by getting out that comfort zone, you exactly widen your restrictions up to the point you’re strained to smash up with the past.
#6.Write A Story About Your Past
Here I am not saying you to write a novel and get published. All you have to do is just write down in your own words what happened to you. Portray the series of steps which troop your life to its current position. Be talkative. Don’t rush. And little by little you’re going to understand that once you put it in words, your past will turn out to be more convenient and you’ll be able to crumble easier.
#7.Memories Are Not The Problem
Let me remind you that a memory is a thought and a thought has no power or meaning unless you give it a power or meaning. This is a fact that many thoughts will come up about the things that happened long ago, and these thoughts will occasionally cause you a problem and sometimes not. You have an emotional reaction to them and you start doing over thinking. But this is wrong. Just ask yourself, do you really want to leave your past behind and start with a new chapter? If yes, then you have to stop doing over thinking.
At the end, as you discover to live in the present moment, the past begins to weaken in its importance. As you gain new experience, the old experiences have less meaning.
Did you ever find yourself in such a situation? Share your views with me through the comments section below.